SOCIAL GATHERINGS ARE SOMETIMES SO IRRITATING.

I like social gathering, specially when its some kind of festival, or pooja. It gives me the opportunity to dress up, wear traditional/ethnic clothes, wear all matching ear rings, bangles etc.etc. Today was Saraswati pooja, as usual the previous night i put mehndi, applied the matching shade of nail paint, bought a new set of ear ring and necklace, did pooja at home and then went to the place where all Bengali's collectively does the pooja.

I really like social gatherings, but there are few people in such gatherings who spoils the festive mood. There is one Mr. Karmakaar about the age of around 38-39, i don't know why i have to call him dada, just because he calls my parents uncle and untie. He is always ready to give me advices in free. He want me to find a guy as soon as possible, so that i get married. He calls me and starts telling me tips to make a guy fall for me, when i didn't respond to his call, he calls my sister so that she can teach me what he had to advice me, when my sister ignores him, he goes to my mom and my mom's answer was "she is my daughter and i am aware of what is good and bad for her, you need not worry".

I don't understand one thing from where do these kind of people get time to give free advice to others. world is running on one principle, "live and let others live". If i have set up a focus for me there is no one in this world who can can change my mindset, not even my parents, so why do these kind of people bother me? Do they think that they are very good counsellor? If i have grown with my dreams will their few sentences change me? BS. Impossible. I guess this Mr. Karmakaar was a social reformer in his past life, who thinks more for others instead of his own problems.He has his own family, got a beautiful wife and a cute daughter, think of them not for the girls who are career oriented.
For me marriage lies at the end of all those dreams that i have, and the reason is...... i want to go completely devoted to my family, as i get devoted in any other dream that i have achieved.

GRATITUDE

There are few people whom i have ever met or know, who were really influential, i don't know how much they influenced others but i learnt some thing from them, i wanted to mention their names here, as a gratitude. Starting with my parents, i learnt from my 27 years of experience that elders are not always right, but still we can always take the good things from them.

I learnt from my mother to "forgive", she says " If you are right in what ever you did and the others cheated or didn't read your heart or made you cry or fought or embarrassed you, don't shout at them in return, wait to see they coming back to you, and then feel the real satisfaction that people realizing your importance".

I learnt from my father to be a good "Lover and Brother". In the year 1976 he met my mom in the local train fell in love with her. When unemployment was a major problem in our country, marriage was far beyond his imagination as he was the pillar to support his family of one younger sister and two younger brothers. He managed to get a good job fought with the barrier of rich and poor, and convinced my mom's family for their marriage. I don't go by romantic novels or love stories which are human imagination, i have it in my blood to go to any extent to stand by my lover.

I learnt from my Best friend to be someone, To speak up against any thing happening wrong to somebody, to help the needy and to always keep in mind that "I am alone in the world, any problem that i face its only me who can solve it, don't expect help from others".

From my current manager "Namtara", i learnt to appreciate on good work done.

I learnt from my Mentor in GENPACT, "VIJAY" to understand every thing about the work that is assigned, it gives us the ability to handle work related problems logically. Though a piece of work is done by some one else, still we should have and idea of how and why it is done.Its he who made me realised that each employee is an asset to the company, the kind of skills that i have gets business, and a part of that profit is given to me as salary.I thank him for explaining me the concept of LEAN project, which i always keep implementing in my daily work, so that i can do more in less time, it ranges from walking and talking fast to changing the Single operation process (SOP), which saves the Turn around time (TAT).
I know i will still meet many more people who will make me learn something from them, i could think of only these people now, and this is a gratitude to all of them for giving me a positive vibe.

मेरी अधूरी कल्पना

कल्पना है एक ऐसे देश का,
जहाँ सभी बोले एक ही भाषा.
ना हो कोई भेद भाव,जहाँ
प्रजा को मिले सभी सुविधा.
हजारों देशों को जोद्रकर बने वह देश,
आदर हो जहाँ सभी प्राचीन सभ्यताओं का.
एक भाषा जैसा एक धर्मी देश हो वो,
पालन हो जहाँ, धर्म इन्सानियेत का.
मेरे कल्पना वाले देश में सभी का आदर होगा,
प्रकृति के हर वरदान का सम्मान भी किया जाएगा.
आधुनिकता से परे नहीं होगा वो देश,
साथ ही प्राचीन ज्ञान का भी अध्यन होगा.
यह मेरी कल्पना का एक टुकरा था,जो मुझे पता है कभी सच नहीं होगा.

LOSS OF BUSINESS ON AP DIVISION.

With the recent tension about the division of Andhra pradesh, there has been lot of losses to the business in various sector. A minister goes on hunger strike, with the hope that he will divide AP into Telengana and AP. As per me, there should be a little change in the constitution, if committing suicide is a crime, then going on hunger strike is also a kind of suicide, so who ever does that should be immediately arrested.
I am very angry on this issue because the matter of division of AP has caused 400 crores rupees loss to the state, the one day international was postponed from visakhapatnam to Nagpur, the upcoming IT and BPO industry in the district had to shut down because of the strike called by the Andhra University students on not dividing AP.
The government of INDIA promised the European and the American clients to deliver business at any cost, they will not understand what is the situation of Indian politics. One mob consisting of students from AU forcefully entered HSBC and caused damage to the property of the office, they broke one LCD TV, caused damage to the furniture's, entering the production floor was not possible without access cards so no damage happened there. I pity on these students who instead of sparing time on studies are involved into political violence which has nothing to help them in their career. they should realise that foreign investments is greatly enhancing the economic development of the country. India has got a high respect in the international community as people who are hard working and delivering high performance. These mobs have brought national shame to us.

न चाहते हुए भी आती है, पुराणी बातें याद,
यादें जो छोर चुकी है एक गहरी दाग.
सोचा था नहीं करूंगी याद ऐसी कोई भी बात.
जो बिताई थी तुम्हारे साथ.
देती हूँ सलहा दोसरों को,
की आसान है भुलाना बीती बातों को,
पर क्या पता है यह उनको,
की हम भी कभी-कभी करते हैं याद उन लम्हों को.
था पूरा यकीन मुझे खुद पर,
भुलाने के लिए चाहिए थे कुछ पल,
पर कुछ घाव इतने गहरे होते हैं की,
छोर जाते हैं गहरी दाग ज़िंदगी भर.
9.30 pm,
23 nov 09.

VIZAG IS LIKE CAPE TOWN

I generally don't like to go to theaters to watch movies, for two reasons, one, i don't like to waste three hours in the dark hall, two, i start crying if there is any emotional scene going on. After a very long time unanimously the team planned to go for a movie, the options were either "2012" or "Tum mile". Most of us were ready for 2012, unfortunately the hall was booked for the next one week and without choice we had to go for "Tum mile".

I am not a fan of Imraan Hashmi, or Soha Ali Khan. The movie was shooted in CAPE TOWN, i was thinking how much money these film makers spend for just a three hours movie and pay Indian currency to other countries, where as i know similar location is present in India and i am proud to live in this city, Visakhapatnam has got its natural beauty like cape town, Hilly roads beside the sea, Sea coast, Ramanaidu film Studio, on the top of the hill, you name the location and Vizag has it, so why go to South Africa, when we have every thing in INDIA?

Main kisi ko acchi lagi

वजह है मेरे ख़ुशी की,
मिली है आज तारीफ किसी की.
वैसे तो तारीफ मिली है इससे पहले भी ,
पर बहुमूल्य है ये तारीफ किसी ख़ास इंसान की.
उसने पुछा - मैं अच्छी क्यूँ हूँ?
अब इसका क्या जवाब दूं?
मैं तो बचपन से ही ऐसी हूँ.
मेरे जैसे तो लाखों होंगे, उसे सिर्फ मैं अच्छी दिखी.
मुझे उसकी तारीफ इतनी अच्छी लगी की,मैंने इस पर एक कविता लिख दी.
कई सालों के बाद ही सही, पर कोई तो है जिसको मैं अच्छी लगी.