A TRUE COMEDY.

I have got a very very funny sister, no one in this world would sit quite without laughing, if she starts speaking out, all my friends likes her for this nature of hers. Tonight she told me an incident, she explained me that so well that it inspired me to write this blog. The incident is as follows:

There was a get together organised by an Uncle who is actually a music teacher, he has got many students and my mom is one of them. He invited all his students on one Sunday, as usual my mom never goes alone in any gathering, that to musical, she makes sure that either me or my sister is with her, so sister went along with mom. One by one every body sang, now it was Karmakar Unitis turn, she is kind of singer who is always given the last chance to sing because she would make the crowd move away, lol........ as human being we do react formally always in the crowd but this is not applied to insects, the Irony was, my sister saw an ANT, who lied sense less until she was singing, the moment she was done with the song the ant moved with the highest speed it could move. Sister explained me this so well which i am sure cannot be expressed in this blog. She said "u know didi! the moment unti started the song the ant stopped moving i thought it fainted with the loud noise pollution that her song created, the moment the song was over it regained its senses and ran away from the location ASAP." Ha ha ha ha ha ..........

WHAT I LEARNT.

When i was in school, college or during my university days i never won any great award for coming first in the class or winning any competitions, that doesn't means that i was always a looser, i was considered among average students. There was girl in my class who was the daughter of my fathers colleague, she always scored good marks and came first, she made it a point to discuss marks in official parties to show me down in front of all uncles and unties.That was the time when i was a student and was sure about my life, that i don't get good marks ,i will not get admission to good college and forget to see the university campus and i started to explore my self in something which was not there in her, and i found myself as a singer, this led to get more worse and i started getting marks below average.

I realised this in class 12th that coming first is not enough, a student should have enough confidence, should be more towards applications of the subject instead of mugging up things, should have good analysis skills, by the time i realised the truth it was too late. I passed 12th with first class marks, got admission to a good missionary college. During graduation at a women's college i learnt to discover the real human in me who can do every thing that a man can, can take care of parents like a son, can freak around if she wants to like a road side romeo, can get every goddie of life,thanks to the college environment. I made it to the university, i met the kind of person i was searching for as a friend from whom i can always learn, from her i learnt not to fear if you are right, to speak in gatherings, to go out and mingle up with more people, raise your voice when ever you see wrong things around you, she made me realise "think you are alone in this world so be prepared for every situation because its only you who will resolve any problem not some one else".

Now i am a professional women, here also i had to face many politics which did try to pull me back, thought of moving out of the company many times, but my previous childhood experiences reminded me to face all challenges, instead of becoming more weaker and running out of the game, i will have to survive it. Today the situation is, all my juniors come to me for any work related problems instead of approaching my boss, I am recognised as a best performer in the department, i get top ratings at office. I wish i had this kind of attitude when i was a school student then i would have defeated that class first girl. Now when i see my self and compare with that class mate of mine i feel proud, because she cannot compete with me.

There are few things in the world which is far beyond our thoughts, we see only around us, we think the whole world is against us when any thing goes wrong, even we show our anger on the Almighty, its very wrong, sinners do get punished, making some one cry for nothing will make you pay for it, that girl never got the opportunity to study after 10th std, her father became bankrupt and one day she eloped with a very cheap guy, today she is mother of two daughters.

I would conclude that be what you are, believe in what you are doing is the best, don't get bothered about things going against you, just Chuck off people who demotivates you,don't care for people who make fun of you, don't trust on any body until the person is really trust worthy, above all have full trust on GOD. It may take little time for people to understand your qualities,but one day you will be the most important to them.

A PRAYER.

Generally i don't cry when i watch any emotional scene in any movie, because i know after all its just a man made story, and i am paying to enjoy those three hours of watching different moods of human nature. Today i did cry, cry like a small child, and felt like a child who watches his parents being killed in front of him and he is unable to save them. The movie "PEARL HARBOUR" is not a man made story, its real, it did happen in the year 1941, Japanese did kill Americans. i hate those minds who were behind this attack. I Don't know who died then, they were not my distant relatives, nor any of my good friends, neither will i ever meet any of their relatives in the future, but i did cry for those innocent people who were killed on that day.

I remember similar attack on our own land, 26/11/ 2008, one in the year 2001 9/11, on USA, many such attacks in different parts of the world, it really makes me cry when i come to know human killed human, its really shame on our part that we are killing our own species. I hate all those terrorists and the master mind behind all these inhuman attacks. I request the almighty to come down on to Earth and save the world from the demons called terrorists.

WHY CANT THE GUYS SAY NO TO DOWRY

Definition Of Dowry :- Dowry or Dahej is the payment in cash or/and kind by the bride's family to the bridegroom' s family along with the giving away of the bride ( called Kanyadaan) in Indian marriage . Kanyadanam is an important part of Hindu marital rites. Kanya means daughter, and dana means gift.
I Hate this word Dowry, reason? its just buying the bridegroom with huge amount of money, or in other words he sells himself, to the girls family,I am sure in all those marriages where Dowry is appreciated, love in between the two families, is never established, the bride's father saves all his earnings from the time the daughter is born, and one fine day all his savings are gone with his daughter to the grooms family. I call these families "SHAMELESS", specially the groom who cant protest against this crime, if he is not capable enough to feed himself or buy the luxuries of his life, then he has no right to enjoy the hard earned money of an elderly person who is his father in law.

I know few of my male friends who justify the Dowry system, according to them, its just a gift in the form of cash, Dude forget it, i know gifts cant be for hundreds of thousands of rupees, that is literally demanded to the brides parents, i even know guys who set their rates, if doctor 50,00,000 rupees, if Engineer 25,00,000 rupees, if he is settled in abroad then the amount is so high that even a higher middle class family father cant afford to pay the amount. I have no regrets to say "they are not Men" If you are really Educated enough you should wisely judge between right and wrong.

I am writing against this evil crime because of 2 reasons:
1. Last year one of my childhood friends, got married to a normal earning guy, i took 2 days leave from office we did lots of planning for the wedding day, on the wedding day i was all the time with her, clicked many pictures, every thing was very good, one year later they are no longer with each other, my friend Anjali is living with her widow mom and sister with a new born baby. I think of the day one year back, and today i see her without husband , the only reason is, her husband never liked her, he agreed to marry her because her mom offered the guys family a huge amount of money, which her father saved when he was alive, she did keep her promise, but the amount was little less. When i see her with her son in her lap tears fill my eyes.

2. This year there is another wedding of my childhood friend Tara, she was in love with a guy from the telugu community from a very young age, now that both the families have agreed to the marriage, the real demon came in the love story, "Dowry" the guys family demanded a 3 bedroom flat in the heart of the city, a huge cash because the boy earns good, branded clothes for all the relatives from the grooms family and a car. Lord save me, i pity on Taras father who has to give away all his earnings and savings to his son in law, come on Mr. groom this cannot be called as a gift, agree to the fact that u are demanding,making Tara feel that she took a very wrong decission to love you, are you not getting Tara? cant you see that God gifted you the women whom you love? will Tara ever forgive you for putting so much of burden on her father?

Hhhhhmmmm.......... Lord please save me from these kind of guys whom i don't consider as men, they don't have the confidence to be bold enough to go against his parents and say no to dowry.

ABOUT ME

Have you met a Cancerian woman recently? Are you a little confused as to what she really is - chirpy or somber or distant? She is all of these and still, she is none of these. More confused? A Cancerian woman has mood swings every now and then and these are some of her mood swings only. However, her basic personality traits remain the same. She is very sensitive, emotional, kind and caring. Now's the catch! Most of her traits will be hidden behind a shell of indifference and aloofness. You will have to gently coerce a Cancerian girl to get out of that shell and come into the big bad world without it. The best time to do this is in the moonlight, when there are maximum changes of catching her in her true emotions. When in love, she will be tender, womanly, timid and modest. She dislikes criticisms, can't stand rejection and gets deeply hurt by harsh words. Too much aggressiveness on your part may make her a little hesitant. A Cancer woman will never make the first move in a relationship; she only knows how to move backwards or sideways.This is because of two reasons, her shyness and the fear of being rejected. She loves her mother, so you better learn to love as well as respect her too. This female has some secrets and she won't like your prying around her personal diary. She is very insecure and will need your constant reassurance. It doesn't matter if she is the current 'Miss Universe' or has men drooling over her all the time. It is your attention and appreciation she is the most concerned about. A Cancer female is a great cook and makes better food than a five-star hotel chef. However, you will have to learn to live with her mood swings, which is not so difficult since she is so good in every other way. She is extremely loyal and will keep you happy with her warm and rich humor. Once she is committed to you, she will remain yours forever and ever. Adultery is not one of the traits of her characteristics profile. With a Cancerian woman, you will always have to be careful with words. She is very sentimental and can get hurt very easily. Then, she can cry like a two-year old baby. You will be expected to console her and wipe her tears. Cancerian women are quite careful with money. Neither will they be stingy, not totally extravagant. They have a habit of saving everything that is usable, be it money or old buttons or empty jars. They also carefully save things that have a sentimental value attached to them, like the sweater grandmother knitted on their fifth birthday. A Cancer female fiercely guards what is hers and that includes you too! However, she is not too possessive or jealous. But, she does not like sharing her love too. She is one of those people who do not crib about bad luck. She will get depressed and may shed a few tears alone, but she will be patient and wait for the time to change again, this time in her favor. Almost all the Cancerians have the desire of being pampered like a child, especially when they feel low. Don't forget to pay your Cancer girl extra attention when she is depressed, otherwise she may retreat deeper into her shell. Then, it will be very difficult to bring her back to her normal self. She will want to be told time and again that she is still desirable and you still need her. However, she is not weak and is completely capable of looking after herself. Infact, she is one of those who sacrifice all that they have, for their loved ones. She just needs some spoiling after every few days. A Cancerian woman may be fragile as far as her feelings are concerned, but when you need her, she will be as strong as the 'Rock of Gibraltar'. She will also be very protective of her children and make them feel completely secure. They will be the center of her universe and she will pamper them with her love, affection and care. The children will also be very close to her and no matter how much far they go from home, they will come back to her and she knows this. A Cancer female always needs you, but she will never get too aggressive. She knows that you may leave for a while, to follow your dreams, but in the end, she is the one you will come back to. Then, you will find her as charming as before, waiting for you with freshly baked break and hot soup. She will feed you, listen to your worries and make you smile again!