Nirupamas mother is a WITCH.......

Its been a long time i haven't touched this page,but from the last few days i am so disturbed with every thing going around the world ,lets forget the world, its really very very disappointing for the educated Indians who say that they are part of the modern Indian society.Young journalist killed by her mother because she dared to love a man from a different community.

I am disappointed about the Nirupama Pathak murder case, who was studying mass communication in IIMC Delhi, the daughter was killed by her mother because she loved a man from a different community.Parents like nirupama's are burden on the educated class of India, who dreams of educating the female child, giving her the right to choose her careers but cant afford to let her select her life partner.
Its a very obvious situation, when young people in search of good jobs and careers move to different cities, meet people and colleagues from different sates, community, etc. and they like each others way of thinking and decide to spent the rest of the life together.One common excuse that parents say is that "you are not matured enough to select your life partner", bull shit, at the age of 25 if a women/man is able to live alone, take care of finances, talk to clients, bring business to India, then how come that they are not capable to select a life partner?

I am a victim of this kind of social crime, yes i would say it is a crime, when parents come in between the choice of their children, when it comes to marriage. There should be a law in the Indian constitution, where such families should be punished severely who don't allow the child to live their dreams. "Right to fall in love with whom ever u like" should be a fundamental right to all Indian citizen, because love doesn't have boundaries, its above, caste, creed, religion, nationality and sex.
I am impressed with Nirupama's boyfriend who said "humne obedient hoke galti ki, agar humne shadee kar li hoti tobaad mein sub theek ho jata". I am so lucky that my parents have also changed according to the times, they would see for where i am happy, if i am happy in marrying some one who is not from the community, caste, state,be it whatever, they would happily agree, because, they look for my smiling face, let the society go to hell.

SOCIAL GATHERINGS ARE SOMETIMES SO IRRITATING.

I like social gathering, specially when its some kind of festival, or pooja. It gives me the opportunity to dress up, wear traditional/ethnic clothes, wear all matching ear rings, bangles etc.etc. Today was Saraswati pooja, as usual the previous night i put mehndi, applied the matching shade of nail paint, bought a new set of ear ring and necklace, did pooja at home and then went to the place where all Bengali's collectively does the pooja.

I really like social gatherings, but there are few people in such gatherings who spoils the festive mood. There is one Mr. Karmakaar about the age of around 38-39, i don't know why i have to call him dada, just because he calls my parents uncle and untie. He is always ready to give me advices in free. He want me to find a guy as soon as possible, so that i get married. He calls me and starts telling me tips to make a guy fall for me, when i didn't respond to his call, he calls my sister so that she can teach me what he had to advice me, when my sister ignores him, he goes to my mom and my mom's answer was "she is my daughter and i am aware of what is good and bad for her, you need not worry".

I don't understand one thing from where do these kind of people get time to give free advice to others. world is running on one principle, "live and let others live". If i have set up a focus for me there is no one in this world who can can change my mindset, not even my parents, so why do these kind of people bother me? Do they think that they are very good counsellor? If i have grown with my dreams will their few sentences change me? BS. Impossible. I guess this Mr. Karmakaar was a social reformer in his past life, who thinks more for others instead of his own problems.He has his own family, got a beautiful wife and a cute daughter, think of them not for the girls who are career oriented.
For me marriage lies at the end of all those dreams that i have, and the reason is...... i want to go completely devoted to my family, as i get devoted in any other dream that i have achieved.

GRATITUDE

There are few people whom i have ever met or know, who were really influential, i don't know how much they influenced others but i learnt some thing from them, i wanted to mention their names here, as a gratitude. Starting with my parents, i learnt from my 27 years of experience that elders are not always right, but still we can always take the good things from them.

I learnt from my mother to "forgive", she says " If you are right in what ever you did and the others cheated or didn't read your heart or made you cry or fought or embarrassed you, don't shout at them in return, wait to see they coming back to you, and then feel the real satisfaction that people realizing your importance".

I learnt from my father to be a good "Lover and Brother". In the year 1976 he met my mom in the local train fell in love with her. When unemployment was a major problem in our country, marriage was far beyond his imagination as he was the pillar to support his family of one younger sister and two younger brothers. He managed to get a good job fought with the barrier of rich and poor, and convinced my mom's family for their marriage. I don't go by romantic novels or love stories which are human imagination, i have it in my blood to go to any extent to stand by my lover.

I learnt from my Best friend to be someone, To speak up against any thing happening wrong to somebody, to help the needy and to always keep in mind that "I am alone in the world, any problem that i face its only me who can solve it, don't expect help from others".

From my current manager "Namtara", i learnt to appreciate on good work done.

I learnt from my Mentor in GENPACT, "VIJAY" to understand every thing about the work that is assigned, it gives us the ability to handle work related problems logically. Though a piece of work is done by some one else, still we should have and idea of how and why it is done.Its he who made me realised that each employee is an asset to the company, the kind of skills that i have gets business, and a part of that profit is given to me as salary.I thank him for explaining me the concept of LEAN project, which i always keep implementing in my daily work, so that i can do more in less time, it ranges from walking and talking fast to changing the Single operation process (SOP), which saves the Turn around time (TAT).
I know i will still meet many more people who will make me learn something from them, i could think of only these people now, and this is a gratitude to all of them for giving me a positive vibe.